What Can Parents Do to Stop Bullying in Our Schools?

 

Bullying is a problem that can only be solved with your help. Whether your child sometimes behaves like a bully, sometimes gets picked on by bullies, or has seen bullying go on in school, we need your help. Please read the tips and hints below and think about how you might do things at home to help make school a safer place for all children.

 

If you suspect your child may be a victim

Do

JListen to your child. Take the time to hear what she has to say before giving advice.

JEncourage your child to talk to his teacher. The teachers want to help.

JProvide suggestions on how to stay safe. Tell your child to avoid getting caught alone, to ask for help if in danger and to be willing to hand over possessions if necessary. She can report the theft later, safety should always come first.

JHelp your child develop friendships. Research shows that children who have few friends are more likely to be targeted by bullies.

Don’t

LTell your child to stand up to the bully.  It may only put him or her in more danger.

LTell your child to keep it to themselves, or not to cry. Children need to have safe outlets for their emotions, especially when they are hurt.

L Ignore the problem. It won’t go away by itself.

 

 

If you suspect your child may be a bully

Do

JTell your child that bullying is wrong

JTalk to your child’s teacher about the problem. Remember, you are both on the same side – for a safe school for all children.

JShow kindness at home. Be kind to animals, use kind words at home like “I’m sorry,” “Thank you,” “I forgive you,” and “I love you.”

Don’t

LPunish your child harshly or physically. If you need ideas for respectful, non-physical discipline, call your child’s teacher or counselor.

LTell yourself “boys will be boys” or “that’s the way girls are.” Bullying is dangerous for victims and bullies as well.

 

If your child is neither a victim nor a bully, they are still an important part of the solution to this problem. The most effective way to end bullying behaviors is for bystanders to refuse to stand idly by. Talk to your child about bullying and what he or she can do to make a difference, such as becoming a friend to someone who has few or is new.